What if:
- the Sufi teaching that anyone who breaks our heart is only breaking it open where it has hardened, is true
- Landmark’s ® teaching that we are 100% responsible for how a conversation goes, is correct
- Einstein was right when he wrote that our enemies serve us more than our friends do
- the invitation in both Matthew 5:44 and Luke 6:27 to “…Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to those who revile you, and pray for them which…persecute you;” is wisdom
- instead of making someone else wrong, bad, or the problem, we took responsibility for the situation and therefore accepted the power to create positive change
- the answer to every question is Love: whether it’s more, deeper, a different type, including self-love
- we just let ourselves feel sorrow when we feel hurt, rather than: distracting ourselves from it, passing the pain on to someone through offensive behavior, self-medicating it, or allowing anger to rule our actions or words.
- when challenged by someone and tempted to retaliate, we stop, take a deep breathe, and ask “How can I be a blessing in this situation?”
Just some things to consider…
- Pick a time that’s good for both of you, in person if possible, when you’re both rested, receptive and sober, and not in a car. Establish common ground: what common experience, challenge or goal do you share? What can you praise and appreciate in this person to affirm them?
- “When you _________________(fill in the blank by describing their behavior that you’d like them to change)”…
- “I feel _________________(fill in the blank by listing your emotions, not your opinions)”…
- “and what I would like is ________________(fill in the blank by describing your preferred behavior from them).
- Let go of the results…
- knowing that you can take care of yourself. (You can get your needs and preferences met without them if necessary. They are not in charge of or responsible for your happiness.)
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