The following has been distilled from 34 years as a holistic health professional, and learning to love my partners, friends and family in ways that are meaningful to them. Expressing compassion and empathy in effective ways that leave us peaceful regardless of our loved ones’ choices is a big key to experiencing sustainable joy and resilient happiness.
7 Remembrances That Help The Helper
1) We cannot save anyone. We can only help them save themselves IF:
– they want to be saved AND
– they want our help.
2) People have the right to be wrong.
3) We are not called to fix them. We are called to love them as they are, where they are in their lives.
People will feel unloved and unaccepted if we try to fix them.
4) This is their Soul’s Journey, and they will do it their way.
5) They ARE getting the lessons; they’re just learning them the hard way right now.
6) Offering or giving unsolicited advice is offender behavior, and it disempowers the person we’re wanting to help.
This includes asking them “May I make a suggestion?”
– One approach that does seem well received is to ask: “I notice you’re really suffering with… What do YOU think about…?” – and offer a possibility, which invites them to consider an option by genuinely asking for THEIR opinion on it.
– Also, ask them “How can I help?”
7) There is a big difference between enabling someone to stay unwell, and assisting them in their healing journey.
Bonus: Consider how it feels to say to yourself, especially out loud:
“It’s not up to me.”
“This is none of my business.”
“Creator, take care of this.”
Reminder: Their decisions are between them and The Creator, rather than between them and you.
Invitation:
Surrender your concerns to The Beloved/God/Holy Spirit/The Creator upon the altar of your Heart – and find the Peace that surpasses understanding, and the Joy that this world doesn’t give, and this world cannot take away.
For ThetaHealers and ThetaHealing Clients:
Some topics you may consider muscle-testing for and downloading “The Creator’s understanding”, etc for as necessary:
Living without having to mother others; Living without having to manage other adults’ lives; Living without martyring yourself; Living without manipulating others; Being Responsible; Loving Detachment; Unconditional Acceptance…plus whatever else you intuitively Hear to check for.
Yours In The Light Of Grace –
Lovingly,
Lynda